This short post is my attempt at a detailed explanation, following a short quote I shared on my Instagram feed. I found the quote while wandering in the endless loop of my explore page, a dangerous trend for someone like me.

However, the quote was striking and summarizes in little detail, what I feel our 20’s should be about– self-identification. If we are being transparent, this is usually a difficult feat to achieve, considering that our 20s produce an inner rebellion carried over from juvenile delinquency, fake friendships, relationship problems, and self-sustenance.

These experiences also contribute to shaping our behavior, sometimes to the point of changing who we are for others. For example, picking up unhealthy lifestyles to fit in a circle, or altering our physical appearance to satisfy a partner! Other times it’s changing to positive habits not because we’ve been convicted to but to be accepted in certain circles.

But ideally, our 20’s is usually the time we are single and free- it is paramount that people find themselves in this season. What are your likes/ dislikes, what makes you happy/sad, do you love pets, how do you manage your time, how best do you communicate, do you love a more quiet time or more TV time, what makes you efficient, who would you love to mate? And the barrage of questions is endless.

Regardless of what answers you get, the most important approach is “work on you for you”.

Christmas is around the corner, which means my annual lookbook will be up on the blog soon. However, enjoy the last series of photos of my favorite fall looks, comment below which look is your favorite.

Look 1
Trendy off white shirt and floral skirt with fluffy shoes, paired with a vintage straw bag.

Look 2 
A monochrome white and black outfit, with a beaded bag and mom’s jeans.
Shoes: Schutz



  1. Anonymous
    November 16, 2019 / 6:40 am

    You look stunning in all the pictures.
    My favorite is look 1. I love the vintage straw bag.
    My question is, how can we find ourselves really?
    Any suggestions on practical steps to take?
    Can you share your story?

    • Grace Alex
      November 18, 2019 / 3:01 pm

      Hello Anonymous, finding oneself is not a day's task but I'll try and write a blog post on practical steps to take and maybe share my story to inspire you.

  2. Anonymous
    November 16, 2019 / 6:43 am

    You look stunning in all the pictures. My favorite is look 1. I love the vintage straw bag.
    My question is, how can we find ourselves?
    Can you suggest Practical steps that we could take?
    Can you be kind enough to share your story on self discovery?
    Thank you

    • Grace Alex
      April 25, 2020 / 11:20 am

      Hello Anonymous,

      I am sorry it took a while for me to respond to this, I will try to answer these questions in coming weeks. Thanks for reading, and leaving a comment.