So here is how I have worked to improve mine. As an adult, the one behavior that made me realize that I was struggling hard with self-esteem issues was that I failed at handling feedback. Especially ones that were negative, and will seek out positive affirmations from people who cared less about me or people I looked up to.
Now, the end-result of depending on people for positive affirmation, is that a negative comment in public would make you shrink yourself and that happened to me a number of times before I realized that I needed a sweeping intervention.
Ways of boosting your self-esteem
Write Down Your Little Achievements
Write down things you’re confident about, what you have achieved with minimal or less effort, who benefited from it and how it made you feel. This is a very reassuring task to do often, to remind yourself of who you are. Write down the big things too, the ones that you achieved despite odds.
Take Ownership of Your Fears
Take ownership of your fears, and the things that made you feel insecure. Realize that people will form their bias opinions of you but that doesn’t take away your awesomeness.
Change the things you can to boost self-esteem:
Most individuals have their self-esteem or lack thereof by their physical appearance. For some of us, we don’t hit the societies standard of beauty and that may cause a cognitive dissonance, impacting our self-esteem. My advise is usually, if you have the means to change how you look and it makes you feel beautiful, then do so.
I used to struggle with my writing and I realized that my reading and writing habit was poor. Then, I made the drastic decision to invest in books and my writing this year, and I have began to see changes. Being a good writer has boosted my self-esteem and it only happened because I was willing to make necessary and hard changes to my habits.
Sorround Yourself with Positive People.
Surround yourself with people that reassure you of your self-worth. Words matter, and the voices you take to heart should come from the right people. Our mind can easily make mountains of molehill, so it is important to listen to people who can positively re-affirm us in ways that is uplifting.
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Accept Things You Cannot Change
I have in the past been less confident of my height and body size, and, unfortunately, these features are not something I can readily change. I still pass for a 15-year sometimes, or sometimes overlooked in social settings. But I have come to accept that as something I should live with and I dress up feeling like a 10. Some of us will never have the height or facial structure, or weight we wish for, but we can learn to live with it.